Our Second Donation
So after no hope last month it was that time to try again. As I stated in my last post it had been a very hard month and Ben continued to struggle with being off hormones, it was really starting to affect his moods and he was unsure weather he could continuing trying or If it was best to go back on hormones.
We talked a lot and decided to try again with a new local donor because he really wanted to have a baby and a family and while it was hard we were there for each other and it would be worth it all when we have our baby.
While we was on our two week wait from our first donation we had a London based donor contact us very willing to help, he seemed lovely and because he was closer then the donor we first used and as it was negative we decided to met with the new donor. We talked a lot online before meeting for coffee. We made sure we met in a public place and has spoken a lot before then. It was nerve racking considering last time we just traveled stayed in a hotel and got the donation therefore, we did not have much contact with the first donor, where as we wanted to ensure that this time we had someone we trusted and could use until we conceived.
So we went for coffee, he was as nervous as we were but he was very friendly and we all had a lovely chat, about his life, education and family history as well as our lives and set up so we could all get a feel of each other, so he knew we were really ready to have a child.
The donor had all his STI checks and health checks done. He showed us up to date results. He went through his family medical history which their was nothing. He was a healthy middle aged male who was originally from South Africa before moving to England in his 20's. He has a masters degree education, he works as an accountant and had also taught English in different countries. This was what we were looking for because he was intelligent with good health and we knew our baby would be healthy with great genetic. We were not concerned over looks or the donors age because they are less important factors in our eye then health and intelligence. We also like that their was a different cultural background as well as the fact he taught because that is the profession that both me and Ben were in.
He is also a gay man in a relationship in which his partner supports his decision to be a sperm donor, this meant he understood to a degree our situation with being a trans gay couple and Ben being a pregnant man. He did not want his own kids or have any contact other then knowing that the baby was healthy and okay as well as being able to give us the chance to have a family. After meeting we kept in contact while we tracked Ben's ovulation to set up when we would need a donation.
As he was close to London and had to come past our way after work, he did not charge us for travel or want to take any money off us unlike the last one. We trusted him and felt comfortable enough to have him round to our house in order to do the donation which made everything easier and more relaxed for Ben.
We talked a lot and decided to try again with a new local donor because he really wanted to have a baby and a family and while it was hard we were there for each other and it would be worth it all when we have our baby.
While we was on our two week wait from our first donation we had a London based donor contact us very willing to help, he seemed lovely and because he was closer then the donor we first used and as it was negative we decided to met with the new donor. We talked a lot online before meeting for coffee. We made sure we met in a public place and has spoken a lot before then. It was nerve racking considering last time we just traveled stayed in a hotel and got the donation therefore, we did not have much contact with the first donor, where as we wanted to ensure that this time we had someone we trusted and could use until we conceived.
So we went for coffee, he was as nervous as we were but he was very friendly and we all had a lovely chat, about his life, education and family history as well as our lives and set up so we could all get a feel of each other, so he knew we were really ready to have a child.
The donor had all his STI checks and health checks done. He showed us up to date results. He went through his family medical history which their was nothing. He was a healthy middle aged male who was originally from South Africa before moving to England in his 20's. He has a masters degree education, he works as an accountant and had also taught English in different countries. This was what we were looking for because he was intelligent with good health and we knew our baby would be healthy with great genetic. We were not concerned over looks or the donors age because they are less important factors in our eye then health and intelligence. We also like that their was a different cultural background as well as the fact he taught because that is the profession that both me and Ben were in.
He is also a gay man in a relationship in which his partner supports his decision to be a sperm donor, this meant he understood to a degree our situation with being a trans gay couple and Ben being a pregnant man. He did not want his own kids or have any contact other then knowing that the baby was healthy and okay as well as being able to give us the chance to have a family. After meeting we kept in contact while we tracked Ben's ovulation to set up when we would need a donation.
As he was close to London and had to come past our way after work, he did not charge us for travel or want to take any money off us unlike the last one. We trusted him and felt comfortable enough to have him round to our house in order to do the donation which made everything easier and more relaxed for Ben.
Donation take 2......
So the time came around again when Ben was ovulating as we were ready for a donation, according to the app we used to keep track while doing ovulation stripes. He was so lovely and was available at the last minute because of us working and we was not sure when Ben was meant to ovulate due to coming on earlier the last month. But we set a date and time for our first donation with him. He came to our house after work, did his part and left so we could do the insemination. This time round we had more donations to increases the chances that it would take, also because we were not sure when Ben was going to ovulate and didn't want to miss it.
We had Donations on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday one week, in which clear blue ovulation test were still showing that Ben was not ovulating, the the following week we had two more donations on the Monday and Tuesday. It was a very different experience then last time for many reasons mainly it being in our own house and because we knew the donor more by this point. It was a very weird and awkward experience at first but soon we all relaxed and it just become a regular part of our routine after that.
I think that the fact we did have more donations and it was in our owe home, I felt more relaxed and confident that I was doing the insemination correctly to increase our chances. So after two weeks of donations with lots of other stuff going on to we had our two week wait again...
No comments:
Post a Comment